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Inspiring Asian Women everywhere to lead Empowered, PASSIONATE and fuLfilled lives |
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October 2010 ISSUE 7 |
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Asian Woman |
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Newsletter packed with ideas, latest research, tools & techniques specially geared to supporting Asian women excel in their career, relationships, family and in celebrating their own individuality. |
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In this issue: |
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¨ Editor’s message ¨ Feature article: What do you need to let go of? |
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Please forward this newsletter to anyone you think may find it valuable. |
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As the autumn sets in and the leaves change colour in preparation to leave their summer abode, it makes me reflect on us as human beings and how we sometimes cling on to things even when they are no longer needed or useful.
We hang on to past resentments, limiting beliefs and old patterns just because they have become familiar not realising that they are taking up valuable space in our heads. The leaves fulfil their purpose and then leave, making way for new fresh leaves the following year. |
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What do you need to let go of? |
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It sometimes takes courage and persistence to let go of an old pattern but when you succeed there is such an enormous freedom and space for new and rewarding beginnings. |
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Being regarded as the eldest in my family, my parents always looked to me to set an example. When we were growing up, I was expected to help them out with caring for my younger siblings as well as general support around the house, shopping, running errands, etc. As my siblings were quite young, my parents always relied on me to sort things out. This became so much of a habit that even when my siblings were older and were able to contribute; my parents had just got in the habit of asking me. My siblings grew up with the belief that I was the one that mum and dad trusted and I would just sort things out. This was all well and good as I love my parents dearly and always want to support them. However, there are times when my life is so busy and I really need my siblings to help out more and my parents to ask them more. I found that despite my best efforts to communicate this, old patterns die hard. |
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What old patterns do you need to let go of? There may be relationship patterns in work or in your personal life that you find you are constantly complaining about? What, within you, holds you back? What don’t you want to put up with anymore? Write it down now and write down 3 things you can do to improve yourself or the situation. Take a lesson from nature this autumn and let go of what is not serving you anymore so you can allow for fresh and exciting new opportunities to take their place? |
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How many times do we hang on to ineffective ways of thinking or past experiences, feeling that we are not able to let them go – when we don’t let them go, we can’t make way for the fresh new leaves and experiences and opportunities to grow as the old unhelpful ones are still there taking up that valuable space.
What are you hanging on to that is no longer supporting you or is not allowing you to feel great. Make a conscious decision and commit to letting it go. |
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It was my birthday recently and I had such a lovely time sharing it with friends and family. I feel so privileged to have such a diversity of wonderful people in my life. People that will laugh with me, cry with me, explore new lands and watch out for me.
Having a network of people around you who inspire and support you is vital to emotional wellbeing. If you don’t already have one or something is missing, create friendships that you will be proud of and ones that support you to be even more happier, successful and fulfilled! |
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Once I had made my mind up that I did not want to carry on like this, I put together a plan that made it easy for my siblings to say yes. Naturally, i had to be insistent with my mum to make it work. And boy...am I glad I did. I now look forward to spending my time with mum doing more fun things that we would never have had the time before to do because I was always overwhelmed with all the chores that needed to be taken care of! |